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• Strategy
• Statistics and Probability
• Rough Estimation of Interest Level
• Interest Level More Accurately
• Maximizing Estimation's Accuracy
• Developing Your Own Strategy
• Artificially Induced Errors
• Importance of Math Model
• Which one of Interest Levels?
• Learning Costs
• Feelings

Although this article is given from man's perspective, it is valid for women as well as long as appropriate and (hopefully) obvious modifications are done.

Once upon his life, every man asked the following two questions:

1. How do I know that she is interested in me, alias what's her interest level?
2. How will I keep her interested?

To maximize the probability of keeping her interested, you need to come up with a battle plan – a strategy. And then, you will watch her interest level changing, so that you will know how well your strategy works.

Without being aware of the situation, you would never know whether you at least stood a chance with her, or which mistakes you did.

He who knows when he can fight and when he cannot, will be victorious.
If ignorant both of your enemy and yourself, you are certain to be in peril.

Sun Tzu

There are people, who are willing to change their strategy, just because they did not succeed at the moment. Yet, they don't even ask, whether they actually could succeed. So, they go to another extreme as they change nothing.

Strategy

If your strategy works successfully, she wants to stay with you. In such case, you head for a long-term relationship. This is a reliable indicator that efficiency of your strategy is greater than 50% - see Equation of Interest Level Motion.

Getting a bunch of phone numbers is not reliable. Some women just cannot say no to your face and other women seek someone just not to be alone. Having a sex at a first date is not a reliable indicator of method's efficiency as well. She could have slept with you just to make her ex angry, or she is simply a chippie. So, don't be a fool and don't think sky rocket high of your abilities, just because you had sex. In such case, your strategy does not matter to a significant extent. You just need to look good and behave yourself to her needs. But when she wants to be with you repeatedly and because of your personality, that's a different piece of cake. That's reliable and relevant.

Perhaps, a most reliable switch to man's brain is sex, beside a good meal. Set your priorities accordingly to your age:-) Notice how many dating techniques aim for getting her to bed ASAP. Beside the natural reaction to the possibility of having sex, there's an ill logic in background that interprets the following. You have sex, when she wants to stay with you aka when you have a long-term relationship. When you have a long-term relationship, you will have sex as well. But when you have sex, it does not mean yet that she wants to keep you for the long-term relationship. Set your primary goal first.

The long-term relationship with Miss Right stands for at least two months, when she had positive personal and relationship interest levels. During this interval, it is possible to test conditions of mutual physical attractiveness and to test, whether you have compatible thinking – i.e. whether the possibility of staying together exists. In other words, the relationship is possibly long-term one, if it lasts longer than two months under given conditions.

These two months act as a quick test as well. If your strategy works, she wants to stay with you and you don't need to perform any calculation. If it does not work, there is no reason to stick with it.

When things go wrong, don't go with them.

Elvis Presley

Statistics and Probability

With my personal pre-selection and style, at the best I achieved 10% probability that approached woman is Miss Right with positive personal interest level in me and that she is available as well. The System [2] is more pessimistic – see Thirty Factor. It says that only one woman from thirty women will be available and Miss Right with high interest level. However, it says also that I won't like her so that I'll have to go for another thirty women. Simply said, once you've approached 60 women and none wants to stay with you longer than two months, you do something wrong. The greater number of approached women is, it is the greater probability that you use strategy that does not lead to your goal.

We talk about a probability that approached women is available for you, that she is Miss Right, that you understand each other and that you find yourselves mutually physically attractive. Moreover, that you both have positive personal interest level in each other. The list of required conditions is not a small one. Therefore, one cannot expect miraculous numbers once we pursue realistic estimation.

Once we would be concerned just about probability of getting her phone number, the probability would be greater than 10%. Being justified just with an e-mail address, it would raise even higher. And being delighted just by talking to her, we could claim almost 100%. However, none of these is a reliable indicator.

If anybody guarantees high success ratio, ask him, what exactly he guarantees. Ask him what the success exactly is and don't buy into vague terms. Don't take statements such as "you'll become more successful, you'll gain more self-confidence, women will like you more, you'll adopt the right manners, you'll become another, better man, etc."

Whenever a normal, clinically sane man buys a car, he is interested in motor, consumption, running meter, chassis and vehicle body in the first place. With statements such as "it will be new experience, a different drive feeling, you'll make a better impression", he would say good bye and buy nothing.

Those who cannot learn, and traps themselves in honey-pots, those' kingdom of heaven shall be.

Of course, you don't have to rely on interest level measuring only to determine strategy's effectiveness. You can analyze the strategy as well. Having correct input data and applying correct procedure, the analysis will match measured values of interest level.

I guess that we all realize that anybody, who relies on his friends only, perhaps never approached 60 woman strangers in his life, just because he might like them as potential girl-friends. Such people might tell us about their high success ratio, because they succeed e.g. at every second woman. Just put them into harsh environment such as street, and they will say good bye to their high success ratio very quickly. However, we are interested whether she will want to stay with us for at leas two months, regardless of the first contact.

By stating that at least one woman out of 60 women fits the requirements, it does not mean that you have to approach 59 women to get to this one. You can have the luck to meet her right at the first approach. It is probability; these are not absolute numbers.

Let her be 5^th, 6^th, 12^th or 25^th woman you approached. The order is out of your control and therefore you cannot reliably judge your strategy this way. It is necessary to differentiate between order and total number of approached women. Only after you cross the limit, 60, without reaching desired effect, then it is time to consider error either in the strategy, or in its completion.

Given probability is population's property. It is not about your capabilities. It describes percent occurrence. Once non-zero, you have a chance to keep her as you can meet her. Reversely, if you don't meet her, then you cannot keep her, apparently. Success ratio of keeping her is derived from effectiveness of used strategy.

For a month, you roam streets of a larger city and percent occurrence of Miss Right is 1 of 30. You approach one woman each day. On 12^th day, you've got a phone number that resulted into a date. Just this time, she was Miss Right, but you were not able to keep her interest level high. So, you've started to study The Theory of Interest.

You had studied hard, yet you continued to approach one woman each day. Percent of occurrence stood the same. After 25 days, you had another day with another woman and roughly one week later, there was another date with her.

Degree of your knowledge and practice does not affect Miss Right percent occurrence in your environment. It affects the probability of keeping her interest level high.

Those, who ignore Statistics, are condemned to reinvent it.

Brad Efron

Rough Estimation of Interest Level

There are several indicators of positive personal interest level in you.

• She keeps agreed dates, she does not cancel dates, she tries to come up with counter offers
• In your presence, she is relaxed, enjoys your company and does not avoid your kisses (no positive personal interest level without physical attraction)
• You talk about private stuff
• She proposes dates, she says that she loves you (better yet – she behave so) – with clinically sane woman older than 23 years, this indicator is valid since 6^th date including [2]

As you can see, there are 4 points per each date. For a particular interval, count how many of them she completed and divide it by maximum achievable points. The result is her average interest level in the given interval.

The rough estimation determines the interest level for positive numbers only. On the other hand, it is not a big problem as even Miss Right is useless for you without positive interest level.

Accuracy depends on the number of evaluated dates. For a single date, there is 25% tolerance – it is a problem of few input samples. For instance, a rejection of first date proposal illustrates this. However, with the knowledge that efficiency of a successful strategy is greater than 50%, we know that she would not reject second proposal with positive personal interest level (tolerance is 12,5%). With a successful strategy, you would not stagnate at zero.

Computing interest level per some interval, you don't get current value, but the average value. The longer interval is, then the greater a difference to current interest level could be.

Apparently, the rough estimation is not complex. So I hope that even a 15-years old teenager understands.

Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain't goin' away.

Elvis Presley

Interest Level More Accurately

Thanks to Scramjet, we know that interest level always changes, even if it is by an immeasurable difference. Therefore, we are unable to precisely tell current value of interest level. Once we say it, it has already changed. It is the same as with time. However, we can estimate the interest level with a particular tolerance. By comparing two sequential values, we determine its progress – raising or lowering.

The rough estimation suffers from little accuracy. Especially, we don't know optimum length of a time interval that would reflect her current interest level best. We need some fixed point – i.e. a confirmed interest level at a particular time. And we'll get this value from optimistic distributed simulation [108].

From this moment on, the further reading is designed for people, which would get familiar with the distributed simulation prior writing a comment.

Anytime we make any action, we never know what will happen to her interest level with 100% accuracy. We just assume a probable interest level change and accordingly to her reaction, a feedback, we make correction to our estimation of her interest level.

Initially, we reset all clocks and estimation of her personal interest level in us to zero. If she reacts positively, we take it as acknowledgement. Getting negative reaction, we consider it as an anti-message. If necessary, we perform respective rollback in the interest level estimation. Let us define positive interpretation of her interest level as a ratio of all acknowledgements to all messages, i.e. including anti-messages. Negative interpretation is defined as a ratio of anti-messages to all messages and multiplied by -1.

Two interpretations are needed because of –PIL → PIL–invariant [86, 87]. Until we get such anti-message that indicates her interest level under zero, we choose positive interpretation. Once this happened, we choose negative interpretation.

It is not necessary to interpret all anti-messages for the possibility of interest level under zero. It is still valid that successful strategy has efficiency greater than 50%. Once the interest level gets under zero, it leads the interest level estimation down to zero as well. Without interpretation, we do not estimate PIL, but RIL. This is given by the momentum that cannot be eliminated without the interpretation. The previous positive PIL values affect the average value over a given period. Fidelity of interpretation is conditioned by knowing the woman and the situation.

We can receive messages not only from her, but from other sources, e.g. her environment, as well. Therefore, it is desirable to assign weights accordingly to their reputation and trustworthiness. Just in case, it is better to run two simulations. One simulation will receive messages from her only and another one will process messages from other sources as well. The second simulation is to be used as an alarm to warn on possibly dangerous situations.

Reference value of her interest level is given to such time, for which there will be no anti-message (and thus no acknowledgment as well). As we met her, her interest level was not zero, yet we reset it to zero. This means that this method is iterative one and the estimation of her interest level gets more accurate as the number of reference values grows.

Estimation's accuracy is conditioned by a possible error given by one omitted, or badly interpreted, message. Thanks to reference values, it is a dynamic variable. With reference value, we could be interested in the speed of convergence to the real value of her interest level. This is a complex problem. Luckily, we actually don't have to solve it.

She is driven by her true interest level, not by our estimation. Thus, the estimation makes sense to know, what raises her interest level and vice-versa. Thanks to this, it is possible to develop a strategy and make decisions that would raise her interest level. +PIL++. So, we can adapt. But we should not do it at any costs.

I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be, until finally I became that person. Or he became me.

Cary Grant

If you desire a long-term relationship, it takes more than to know how to raise her interest level. You need to have compatible thinking.

Maximizing Estimation's Accuracy

JAs you can see, estimation based on distributed simulation generally works with any-rough feedback. Therefore, it is not limited to coarse granularity as to evaluate at the level of e.g. dates. Interpretation of messages de-facto means to assign weights to particular messages accordingly to the extent of the change. Going to extreme, we could assign weights to individual gestures of body talk.

It is individual, how much detailed simulation you can handle. There is one apparent use possible – Scramjet. Aka, it is about determining speed of her interest level increase.

We can even go so far that we don't need to learn any of existing strategies, because with such tool, we can derive one fast enough.
The more detailed simulation, the sooner you can adapt to her personality. Memory requirements are the problem. However, methods already exist to deal with it. I won't mention them because you don't actually need them for a first reason. For a second reason, I don't want to give so powerful tool into hand of people, who advertise different goals than those they pursue for real – using her for sex only, getting her money... while declaring e.g. a desire for a long-term relationship.

Technological progress is like an axe in the hands of a pathological criminal.

Albert Einstein

Developing Your Own Strategy

Intuitively as any normal man, you can watch her reactions to a just-performed routine. Therefore, you can evaluate entire sequence of routines and evaluate overall success ratio.

Sometimes routine works, sometimes it does not. And we still consider the same type of woman. Advantage of this success evaluation lies in its simplicity. However, the simplicity has been paid with accuracy. Such evaluation considers woman as a combinatory automata – i.e. her interest level changes accordingly to your present actions only. Thanks to equation of interest level motion, we know that this is not true. Her interest level is affected by its previous values as well. And for this reason we need to know reference value of her interest level.

When evaluating your success ratio, you have to ask whether you even have had a real chance to succeed. Otherwise you would refine your technique with erroneous feedback. It would mean that you would not know whether you are actually doing better or worse. Just because you assumed that you could win, even if it was not possible.

Having several factors, it is possible to reduce out those, which do not affect the result. This is a trivial application of Bool algebra. However, there might be some dependencies, which are not clearly visible as there might be a temporal connection. For instance, when you cease to take her out on dates, someone else might start doing so. Development of such situation depends on her current interest level in you. So, a simple statistics, how many times of total number of times, introduces an error into your decision making.

I could start to expand statistics theories right now, but it can be said easily. Look and learn from her reactions to your actions. And use feedback only from those, with which you had real chance.

Rather than to rely on vague or misleading information, it is better to start from the scratch.

SomeoneCZ

Artificially Induced Errors

Perhaps, as you needed an advice, you listened to somebody who would do better a job, just if kept his mouth shut. Although, he might gave you the information in a good faith that they are correct. Or, a deceiver might have supplied wrong information intentionally. Using of two simulations and trust reputation per information source let you to protect yourself from such errors.

Another possible source of error is your wrong interpretation of what have happened. The reference value and rollback allow you to deal even with such error. Just remember that you work with a time-compression.

But... what if she just plays indicators of positive interest level? Giving a watch-list, I'd just give them more detailed list of what to play to imitate the positive interest level. And we would be right back on the start. Luckily, although it is possible to forge the indicators, forging some of them is in a direct violation with deceiver's true intentions. Deceiver wants something – sex, money or it is something else. When someone really cares about you, he can do things he does not profit from. This is not deceiver's plan and therefore deceiver keeps his expenses at lowest needed minimum. He will try to deceive you by hiding his true goals. For instance, relationship will be declared as the official goal, while something pretty much else will take place – e.g. asking for money. Attempts for a comfortable relationship fail, once you try it with a deceiver. If you see this, remind yourself that there are no victims, just volunteers.

Nobody's perfect and even the best of deceivers will make a mistake eventually [109]. It is up to each of us, whether we will overlook it, or not.

However, the worst thing is, when you interpret events, which have not happened. Only a sane mind can prevent his.

Men become superstitious, not because they have too much imagination, but because they are not aware that they have any.

George Santayana

Importance of Math Model

What I've described, it is possible to do it intuitively to some degree. So, why should we need the math model? We need it because it gives us an independent view without a psychological bias. Because of feelings, people don't want to see particular things. It is possible to deceive human mind with a number of psychological tricks [84, 89, 90, 96, 97, 99, 100, 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 107, 109]. The math model has no feelings and therefore it is immune against such manipulation.

Prohibit the taking of omens, and do away with superstitious doubts. Then, until death itself comes, no calamity need be feared.

Sun Tzu

Take it as a sign of quality. I don't give you some well-formed, nicely looking sentences and a number of testimonies, which could have been forged pretty easily. No. I give you a tool, so that each of you can independently and objectively verify what I say.

Which one of Interest Levels?

Intuitively, we could assume that the more efficient the strategy is, the more it is likely that she would like to stay with you over two months. The catch is that the longer you stay together, goals, attitude and thinking compatibility gain on importance.

See "Dating Is a Game" article – if the strategy is successful, she wants to stay with you. And if you are together for several years, it looks like you can keep her. However, since there are divorces even under such conditions, it is not possible to guarantee lasting relationship just by staying together for some minimum period. The error is that people do not differentiate between personal and relationship interest levels.

Miss Right with positive interest level, and of adequate age, will take you into her long-term plans, which contain marital domicile and children. Miss Right will do it because of her positive personal and relationship interest levels. The problem is that other types of women can do it as well, while not having positive personal interest level in you.

If you want her with positive personal interest level, avoid women, which do not want to be with you just because of your personality and look, and never take back your ex. With ex, personal interest level of one of you either got under the zero, or the reasons for breakup still remain [2]. If you don't have her with personal interest level, do not wonder if she would prefer another man. You've asked for it.

The situation gets more complex, if she just said no as you approached her. If she is loyal and she was in a relationship at that moment, it could have been the damping factor – see Equation of interest level motion. OK everybody, just don't start making illusions that rejection does not matter. For a long-term relationship with Miss Right, you need both her interest levels to be positive. As you evaluate her interest level, take care which one you actually evaluate.

Let us show it on an example. Somehow, you managed to get a phone number of a woman in a relationship. And you want to take her over the relationship. So, you are nice to her, full of humor and time to time you send her SMS in the evening as you are being lead by the idea that her partner will not take it calmly. But you will stay calm all the time, because you are about to show her that you are better than her present partner. I'll make it short now... with this "I'm always here for you", you just show her that she does not need to respect you. So, if you manage to succeed with such tactics, you have her positive interest level. But the relationship interest level, not the personal interest level. If you are there for her no matter what, then she won't respect you for being a pushover.

You date her Interest Level; you marry her attitude.

DocLove

Learning Costs

On could argue that it is not possible to get advertised results, while we have not mastered the method yet. Regrettably, such arguments result into defending of non-functioning strategies. One can always surrender to such fallacy that it will happen someday and the positive results will come.

Luckily to us, there is percent occurrence. Thus, you know the probability of having at least one date. Of course, if you don't manage to lower her interest level right during the first contact. But this won't happen, if efficiency of your strategy is over 50%. In such case, there will be an improvement.

Time needed to achieve long-term relationship differs with personal experience, knowledge, learning capabilities and number of approached women. But the improvement will be measurable. First, the ratio of having dates with women with positive personal interest level in you will grow. Next, the ratio of having dates with just one woman with positive interest level in you will grow.

Perhaps, I should state some maximum limit. Well, let me put it this way. If you are not an asocial individual, but you have e.g. zero experience and your head is full romantic wishes, then it is possible to start getting two dates with the same women in 3 months, if you manage to approach one woman per working day. It is important to set the maximum limit so you don't waste your time and efforts onto something, what does not work, although it has a persuasive presentation that tells the opposite [47, 84, 96]. Leaving out her attitude, Thirty Factor [2] says that 3 out of 30 will have positive interest level. This makes 9 dates in 3 months. And if you can learn fast enough from your mistakes, at least one of those 3 Misses Right should want to see you at least once more.

Having two dates with one woman in 3 months does not look like something great. OK, then. Just remember that this assessment has been done for people, who have a real problem with dating. And they should get those 9 dates just because of number of approached women. Therefore, there's the condition of having two dates with one woman. To her, going to second date because of positive interest level means that she has not lost it during the first date. And this is the problem of some people. Sometimes, it is enough just to stop making the most affecting errors. I cannot say always instead of sometimes because of self-confidence issue. So, the problem is solvable, although I won't claim this possibility for everybody.

Remember, it is impossible to help everybody. And when you mix The Theory of Interest with something pleasant for your ego, yet erroneous, do not wonder that you don't get the advertised results. Anyway, statistics and measuring her interest level will confirm this.

Sometimes, it seems to me that people master the necessary foundations thanks to The Theory of Interest. Yet, they start trying erroneous procedures then, while omitting that their success goes from the foundations – the reason why they still go over 51% with entire efficiency. If something particular did not work, human mind tends to forget related evidence because of viewed overall success [84].

I'm my own enemy

Yngwie Malmsteen

Feelings

Does it seem to you that I've thrown all the feelings overboard, set hard limits and everybody, who does not fit, must go? No. The given computation of interest level estimation just characterizes the actual behavior. If you really care about somebody, you don't have to worry, because you will pass. But if you try to keep somebody, who does not like you for real, then you can find it out quickly. Cynically, I just add that this still does not have to be enough to let him go. But that's entirely your problem...

The power of accurate observation is often called cynicism by those, who have not got it.

George Bernard Shaw

Once the claims match reality,
it is possible to use math.

Just to add a small notice to fellow ladies, remember that real man won't start blabbering how much he loves you. Than to words, look at his actions.

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Have you ever heard about The Marriage Equation? I did not until few moments ago. Compare Equation of Interest Level Motion with slide number 11. I like the idea of stable attractor. Well guys, it is true once more - if you really know what you talk about, you can talk in exact numbers and within range of a valid math-model.

All that New Age fluff talk might motivate,
but won't solve it.

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1. Background
2. A Little Bit of Math
3. Possible Progress of Interest Level
4. Math Proof
5. Implications
6. Use
7. Some More Examples from the Field
8. Crash & Burn

One late night, our group started to move from one bar to another. While paying, I noticed a hot babe that came accompanied by three guys of approximately her age. Subsequently, two of them disappeared, perhaps to men's room. At that time, I was no longer able to think so there was no way how to fear the possibility of rejection. I smiled at her, she smiled back. I sat beside her.

"Alone?"
"Yeah, sometimes it happens."
"Well, we should do something about it then."
Smile.

A specific offer followed, then its confirmation and finally, we said goodbye. It took just few tens of seconds, and long time before The Theory of Interest came to existence and long time before I even learned about The System [2].

Perhaps, anyone, who goes successfully by any procedure, sometimes encountered notably better results than usually. Putting aside cases such as her playing a role for her own goals, or interest level so high that we could not loose, we have something, what has not been explained yet. One of its names is "fool's mate", because nobody really knows, what actually happened. Sure, there are some explanations such as extremely strong frame*, pretty much self-confident, etc. However, everybody with enough of practice and knowledge knows that it's rather a self-deception than a holding explanation.

There is no known explanation that you could see right at the first analysis, unless you already know it. And I found it after I've enriched The Theory of Interest with sufficient amount of math.

* Frame is a term of so-called neuro-lingvistic programming. Standalone, it would provide enough material for its own article, and therefore I say it right and straight – in reality, it does not work [96, 97].

Background

Let us start with an explanation of method's name – Scramjet. Whoever recognized a type of supersonic combustion [92] was right. Whoever flew on holiday by a jet might have noticed a turbine at jet's engine. The turbine drives air into the engine – air compression. Scramjet has no moving parts, which could fail. The air compression happens because of high speed and a cone inside the engine. Result is a simpler engine with much higher maximum speed. From military point of view, it's no way stealth. Yet, it is no problem because of the achievable speed. In dating, it is a principally simple method that can raise Miss Right's personal interest level rapidly. She will do part of the job so that "gain to costs" ratio gets more profitable for you. However, in reality it is not that easy, because...

Everything worth keeping has its price. As Scramjet starts working from Mach 5, her interest level must rise with some minimum speed as well. Another required condition is a suitable fuel – Miss Right. You need to provide both.

Showing it on an example, let her know, what you are going to do and what her response will be. Just beware of this, you have to do it then and she has to respond accordingly to your prediction. Otherwise you lower her interest level. Since her interest level grows with some minimum speed, she will cooperate and therefore be willing to give you the credit for correct prediction – i.e. she does part of your job, which is the effect we seek. However, if you would like to control the effect, it can not be said so simply. You would never learn when you got the minimum required speed and to shut down not to overload the engine.

A Little Bit of Math

Speaking of timing, we actually don't have to go for a specific time units, or event that would say when. For the moment and without explanation why, let us use a fractal [93]. Fractal is a fragmented geometric shape and each of its part is roughly self-similar to the entire shape. Koch's snow flake is ideal for our purpose.

Instead of line, we use it for a hysteresis curve [94]. The curve determines a delayed reaction on external effects. In our case, on the effort to raise her interest level. Particularly, you can understand this curve as a possible progress of her interest level increase, if you do everything right in the given interval.

Two hysteresis curves give so-called hysteresis loop. The loop shows a progress of the interest level change – raise and descent.

Usually, the loop is preferred, because the change is not just a function of time. It depends on invested resources as well – i.e. efforts to raise her interest level in our case. However, let us draw just the curve as a function of time. Then, we get a possible progress of interest level, when she fell for him at first, but he did so many mistakes after that that he send her interest level under the point of no return.

Possible Progress of Interest Level

And now, we finally got to the previously introduced fractal. In the following figure, notice as it is possible to split the blue hysteresis curve at indexes 0 – 5 and 4 – 7 into two curves.

If we would zoom any depicted curve close enough, we would get a combination of up and down going curves no matter what procedure we used to approach the girl.

The figure depicts a possible interest level progress for five possible strategies. Time is given in indexes, when the interest level was sampled. Thanks to fractals, we do not have to give particular time values as the developments are self-similar.

Educated as well as non-educated persons do not have well mastered body language, so they have worse starting conditions than others. However, educated one has read some advices so he avoided biggest mistakes at least. He was successful when compared to non-educated one.

If somebody tries to go by some procedure, but not The Theory of Interest (TI), he does even better than the educated one. However, as he tries to get Miss Right, there are mistakes anyway. Yet, he does relatively well in the overall effect. The figure depicts interest level progress during first contact. As we can see there, he can do even better than TI at some moments. Nevertheless, a conservative TI approach eliminates mistakes (for some price, of course) and therefore it gets better final result.

Scramjet uses the same techniques as the conservative approach does. However, it has better timing. This possibility is given by knowing the interest level progress. Having some minimum speed of interest level increase, or its minimum acceleration, it is possible to estimate the future interest level if there will be neither failure nor any other action.

Going back to the example, the estimation presents how much confident statement we can do. Such statement would work as a prediction of her interest level in us. Predicted interest level has to lie above the estimated value. Difference between the estimated and predicted values affects how much credit she will give us as a bonus, if the prediction will come true. The greater the difference is the greater probability of failure and subsequent interest level decrease. If the difference is small, she won't find anything intriguing about the prediction and it might even start to bore her. Thus, it might lower her interest level. The point is that you should learn by practice, how much you can push your prediction luck with your knowledge – i.e. to minimize the risk.

If Scramjet's application was successful, her interest level rose at least at the predicted level.

Math Proof

I explicitly say that the interest level prediction technique is only an application of Scramjet. It gave him the name and mainly it allowed identification of the hysteresis curve and rapid increase of her interest level. The real trick, the way Scramjet works, is encoded within the following math proof.

We have to realize that the hysteresis curve describes an effect of some action. It means that you cannot interrupt it, you can shorten it only. When you start with an action right after another one that just started to raise her interest level, you start new hysteresis curve and therefore you forced a change over the curves. In other words, you forced the speed of her interest level increase to slow down in order to try to increase it with another action. If you would wait instead, it would rose anyway.

Perhaps, several actions could be performed simultaneously. For instance, to tell her a joke under a beach umbrella with a colorful cocktail that lies on a nearby table. And then, a superposition could take the place.

How many actions is she able to evaluate simultaneously without a forced change over two hysteresis curves? Let us consider a speed of evaluation of simultaneously performing actions and let us consider that this speed converges to infinity slower than the speed, at which she is exposed to individual actions. Thanks to speeds of these convergences, we can use just one string. Let all actions comply with +IL++ and let their number grow to infinity.

Then, the length of each hysteresis curve goes to zero from the right as well as speed of her interest level increase goes to zero from the right. This is the proof that less number of performed actions might be more successful than a greater number of performed actions.

As a paradox, it proves that a man knowing just few tricks could be more successful than so-called seduction artist knowing countless number of routines, openers and god knows what else kind of procedures. Most of the population achieved positive RIL and it does not care about such procedures as a whole. Even I did not care about them, when I exercised right the first example.

It is possible to limit the number of actions by a fixed number. In such case, we could start discussing a probability of which speed action performing is optimal and yet we would not guarantee optimal results. Scramjet as adaptive method derives the number of actions per time interval from the observed interest level change. And for this reason, it can achieve a greater interest level increase even with a small number of actions against a case, where a routine goes immediately after previous routine.

{IL++ | IL--}⁺ is left upon a kind reader.

Implications

First implication is the need of continuous interest level increase. For this reason, it won't work on mercenaries and similar people, because their interest level might change steeply. For example by showing bank account listing. As we saw in "Equation of Interest Level Motion", we do not have 100% efficiency even with Miss Right. Therefore, it is better to consider minimum needed acceleration of interest level increase than to consider its minimal needed speed. Unlike the speed, the acceleration is capable of compensation for small stepped regions on the hysteresis curve. Theoretically, we can assume another type of woman than Miss Right, for which the Scramjet will be effective as well. It is just a matter of continuity.

Second implication is the impossibility of reaching the top limit. If she already loves you at 100%, what will happen if next actions are supposed to increase her interest level? In the reduced state space from "Dating Is a Game", it will stay at 100%. However, we talk about continuous, phase space here. Therefore, you will just reach the limit from the left. It means that you can do everything right and her interest level will still grow. However, the greater it is, the smaller bounds are within which it will increase. Simply said, her interest level cannot grow to infinity.

Of course, 100% goes for the top limit only if you have not lowered it previously. For instance by discovered adultery.

Third implication is the fact that most suitable time, when to apply Scramjet, is so-called entering knee (B), when the acceleration is big enough and therefore it is possible to generate maximum gain. Beginning of the entering edge (C) identifies time, when it is profitable to stop. Aka when it's much of a good thing. At this phase, we should wait until there is sufficient acceleration (A) again.

Fourth implication has a fundamental impact on evaluating the interest level. From the equation of interest level motion, we already know that interest level is never considered to have zero value. And now, we see that the interest level always changes. Even if it should be infinitely small increment that we are not able to measure. For example, when you wait for circa week before you call her and she thinks of why you have not called yet.

Use

"Are you trying to seduce me?"
"Yes."
"And how do you know that I'll let you?"

• Sufficient interest level increase: "Because you are a big girl and you know, what you are doing."
  "And what am I doing?"
  "You're talking to a man, who's gonna ask for your phone number :-)"


• Insufficient interest level increase: "I don't know that :-)"

Scramjet uses the same actions as conservative approach does [2, 3]. However, Scramjet says what the optimal timing for them is. To use Scramjet, you need to understand the math model. Otherwise, you will just use known procedures, which might increase her interest level, but at a slower rate.

The question is when to use Scramjet. Minimum needed speed of her interest level increase is given by your capabilities. You need to test yourselves in the field, to known your minimum speed and how much confident prediction you can do.

When you should stop, i.e. to slow down, it is given by the hysteresis curve's shape.

And now, it would be handy to give some more examples. They are not here because of following reasons:

1. This article is publicly accessible and distributed. For sure, there would be some smart guys (with a sky-high meaning of them) that would not even try to understand it. On the other hand, they would not hesitate to run into streets and use given examples massively. Regrettably, with already known chances. When she recognizes that you’ve used the same procedure, you’ll get the same, low opinion as they did. Your innocence would not matter.
   
   And it was documented several times [35, 95] that women are able to recognize it. By this, you’ve been strongly warned on parroting someone else’s sentences. For this reason, I explicitly say that the introducing opener of this article has not been presented in its original form. However, I left example from this section intact. Who understand this article, understand why;-)



2. Authorship and copyright. I’ll save my time as there won’t be so many texts, where parts of my articles appear without giving me the deserved credit. This is a reason for having the math at such degree in The Theory of Interest. Who can understand, cites and is able to find the original source, even if he reads a stolen copy. Why did I give Scramjet’s explanation in a form of a math proof? ;-)



3. Stealth Opener. When using sentences you have not identified with, there will a deviation from the rest of your body language. Just remember truthsayer [4]. The greater the deviation is, the more apparent it becomes and the more it lowers her interest level. They don’t want you to be yourself for nothing. Yes, if she is interested, she helps. But she won’t overlook anything for this.
   
   As long as you are authors of used sentences, there’s no deviation and you’re fine (of course, unless you do another error).
   
   If you have understood the math proof, you have a stealth method at your disposal. She is not able to detect it reliably. She can only tell if there are its signs. And only if she knows what to look for.

Some More Examples from the Field

We can start with e.g. circa week pause before calling. Beside obvious benefits of this waiting, it respects the optimal timing (given by the hysteresis curve) as well. You get her interested so much, that she gives you phone number. That was the entering edge of rapid interest level increase. And then, do not push it. Give her some time. And that’s the change over two hysteresis curves, when the interest level increases slowly, so it can increase rapidly as we demonstrate our self-confidence by calling her (not sending a text message).

A similar effect could be seen e.g. with clairvoyant client, when a wild guess (bluff) matched the reality. A client inclined to believe in her psychic abilities will cling to this belief even harder. Some of you might recall a Cold Reading trick, when you should guess 7 as a number she thinks of. Be extremely careful here. She might figure out the trick pretty easy and test you much harder. This is an effect of slowing the interest level increase.

AMOG as an action means taking out a rival out of the game [35]. Sometimes, it is said that the woman was already so aroused that AMOG winner had less work to do as his predecessor made the work for him. Well, let’s just leave actual probability of such explanation being valid aside. In reality, we predicted that she will be more satisfied with us and she want to see, whether we will stand up to the prediction.

And how about being nice and bad as necessary? Never heard of it? I guess you did. In fact, it is about a particular application of limiting the offer to increase the demand. This is a part of Challenge [2] and later it was re-published as a part of escalation, e.g. Push/Pull [35]. In proverbial two steps forward you get her accustomed to the interest level, which you’ll take back with the third step. It is nothing but manipulation. As you supply something and then you artificially limit its volume, the demand will grow temporarily, until the volume is restored or alternative solution is found. Outside the seduction world, just think a little bit about petroleum. However, since it’s just a manipulation, you might have noticed that the final effect depends on how far you’ve stepped back – artificial supply limit.

The problem is that you operate just with the proverbial steps. There’s nowhere said how exactly many steps it takes and how far you can go. Optimal timing means to adhere to curve’s shape as Scramjet has shown. Altogether with the ability to determine the speed of interest level increase, you have a formula for timing your actions. Optimally, you limit nothing. You just do not trick her all the time.

Moreover, manipulation usually does not lead to a long-term, satisfying relationship [109]. Notice that on contrary to manipulation, Scramjet acts as a catalyst to accelerate what would happen anyway, but at a slower pace.

Crash & Burn

You see a girl you don’t know and she doesn’t know you as well. You approach and with self-confidence and appropriate body language, you say to her: “Today is your lucky day as I’m single at the moment”. Being Elvis Presley, whom his reputation foregoes, chances for success would be fairly great. However, you are not Elvis and field-tested results go from success to mocking. Why?

It takes her 10 seconds to evaluate your physical appearance. But the approach takes place sooner, before she can finish the evaluation. As she has never met you before, there is no initial interest level. Therefore, you start somewhere between a limit that goes to zero from the right and a limit that goes to maximum interest level from the left. In such case, she always starts by evaluating your physical appearance and that’s the only thing that makes her interest level at the moment. And then, an interrupt in the form of an opener came:

• If you do not attract her, her personal interest level goes under the zero, no matter what you do or say. You’ll never get it into positive numbers.


• You might attract her, but the interest level does not increase fast enough to handle given opener. She will consider you as a selfish bighead and her personal interest level will fall into negative numbers. Just be aware, things might look differently when devilish puss gets bored;-)


• You attract her so much that her interest level increases fast enough to consider you as endearingly perky and she’ll give you extra credit for that – Scramjet.

If you require a greater degree of your physical attractiveness to her, than it is actually needed, feel free to use such openers. Some women will be some more tolerable to your faults because of this. However, it does not matter with Miss Right. You cannot expect her to sacrifice her self-esteem to your appearance. For this reason, it is contra-productive to use such openers as long as you are after Miss Right. It is just an unnecessary harm. In vain, you will disqualify even those who would have positive interest level otherwise – i.e. those who would found you physically attractive anyway.

Scramjet is such timing of actions,
which display your positive interest level,
yet they do not lower hers.

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Not every listed abbreviation is directly used in The Theory of Interest. Yet, they are in use in various discussions about the theory itself, or where the theory is used to address a particular problem. The given list states official abbreviations only.

1 - 10	Rating of woman’s attractiveness. The greater value, the more attractive she is. If there’s a prefix (UG – Ugly Girl, NG – Normal Girl, HB – Hot Babe, SHB – Super Hot Babe), it is a rating in the eyes of a wide audience. The rating is always subjective, when given by single person only. It is only about the look, as it does not cover her attitude.
0% - 100%	Interest Level accordingly to The System [2]. ILTS = (ILTI+100)*0.5 for ILTS>=40%
-100% - 100%	Interest Level accordingly to The Theory of Interest. ILTI = ILTS*2-100 for ILTS>=40%
IL	Interest Level
PIL	Personal Interest Level in a particular person
RIL	Relationship Interest Level in a relationship with a particular person
msR	Miss Right
msW	Miss Wrong (choice)
TS	The System
TI aka TZ	The Theory of Interest (Teorie Zájmu in Czech)

Interest Level Postfix

+	Interest Level is in positive numbers after an action
++	Interest Level increased after an action
-	Interest Level is in negative numbers after an action
--	Interest Level decreased after an action

Interest Level Prefix

+	Interest Level was in positive numbers prior an action
++	Interest Level increased prior an action
-	Interest Level was in negative numbers prior an action
--	Interest Level decreased prior an action

The action might be understood as a particular time point. To say that her interest level is in positive numbers, we write IL>0, or +IL without giving any specification about change’s time point. Literally, it is "Positive Interest Level", ie. +IL.

To say that interest level increased by some difference, ΔIL from IL' to IL, we write IL = IL' + ΔIL and + symbol neither stands for prefix nor postfix. To use it as a postfix, or prefix, use brackets. For instance, (IL+) = (+IL) + ΔIL. Notice that += might stand for add and assign operation, e.g. in [85]. If we are not concerned about ΔIL, then it is sufficient to write IL++, eventually +IL++. To send her interest level below the point of no return, i.e. zero, it means to write +IL-- → IL-.

Yes, Theory of Interest uses Temporal Logic [86, 87]. Perhaps, the most famous invariant could be written as following: -PIL → PIL-.

It is not obligatory to use abbreviations,
and bear in mind that not everybody
would understand them without a proper comment,
especially the TI++ syntax.

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If she has to go out on a date with you, she must be interested enough to do so. If she has to kiss you, there must be enough of her interest for the kiss to happen. If she has to stay with you in a long-term relationship, she must be interested in doing so and she must be interested in you as well.

If you do not understand, why she does not return your phone calls, why she committed adultery, why she flinched from your kiss, why she has a headache, why she ignores you, or why she rejected you, you do not understand the role of interest level and you don’t know, how it relates to her attitude. And therefore, keep reading;-)

Popular, yet totally aberrant myth says that no two women are the same. Sure, none is 100% identical when it comes to her ideas, opinions, experiences, etc. Yet, they have something in common. And how do we know what is that? We use a testing technique called Black Box [32, 33]. We give her some inputs and evaluate the output. Once we have enough of information, we can postulate a theory on how it looks inside. Technically speaking, woman is a sequential automaton with a non-trivial logic. Getting all the required information takes several years, so I take the luxury of giving you just the results - with taken of The System [2] too. Each of you can verify their correctness in a practice.

As a simplifying condition, I assume clinically sane woman as [2] does.

Personal Interest Level vs. Relationship Interest Level

Consider the predicate logic and try to answer this question: does she love me? Or better, does she want to stay with me? The answer will be either yes (1), or no (0). And now, try to consider the fuzzy logic. The answer will be in the range of 0 – 1; i.e. 0% – 100%. And we have the same rating as used by The System [2]. However, we will expand it.

First and key mistake is to consider personal and relationship interest levels as the same. This is not true. Although they are connected, they are two different quantities. Another mistake is to automatically consider a relationship as a long-term one. One night stand is a kind of a relationship as well. I’ll talk about the relationship interest level later, now I’ll talk about the personal interest level.

Fig. 1: Interest Levels
Point of no return, H, F, I and L represent particular thresholds, which determine states she can take against you. As I’ll stress later, interest is a non-linear function. Thus, efforts to raise the interest level by e.g. 5% are not the same for 51% and 65% as starting positions. It is important to realize that we can order the states and define rules for transitions between neighbor states. Threshold numbers were given by an assessment, based on statistics. To quote sergeant Colon, letters are for people who do not know how to count with real numbers.

• <-100%, -75%) – Hate: At this level, you cannot stand the other person in the same room, so there’s no possibility of having a relationship (worth lasting).


• <-75%, -25%) – Impassivity: Well, you can withstand the other person in the same room, but you completely don’t care about him/her. There’s nothing to build the relationship from.


• <-25%, 0%) – Friendship: If you have started at this level, there always will be somebody with a possibly higher priority than you have. If you have started on a higher level than this one, it is still possible that you live in an illusion of a relationship, but the relationship is already gone.


• 0 – Point of No Return: Sooner or later, you’ll have to make a decision that will clarify the interest in you. Is it in positive or negative numbers? It never will be the exact zero.


• (0%, 5%> – Hard to Read: Here, you have a real chance that she could fall in love with you someday. However, her interest level is so low that it is hard say it is in positive numbers. Therefore, it pays off to continue as it would be positive, until you encounter a clear sign of low interest level. At this level, it could take just one small mistake to loose her, i.e. to send her interest level under the point of no return. So, fames, as women do not know what they want, are born. If your relationship with Miss Right goes to hell, this is your last chance to save it. Yet, most men successfully ignore the opportunity without noticing it and fames are born again.


• (5%, 75%> – High Interest: You have not fallen in love yet, but as interest levels of both of you are high, you can start considering it as a relationship. However, she has some interest levels in other guys as well and therefore this level does not guarantee the relationship automatically even with Miss Right. If she is in love with somebody else, you are going to end as a friend. Yet possibly a friend that could became something more in time. So, once you’ll hear that you cannot be just friends with a woman, or that a friend became girlfriend, you’ll know that it is about this interest level.


• (75%, 100%> – Love: If you want to keep your partner, and his/her interest level in you got here, you’re doing fine. Even if there will be interest level in somebody else that would be higher than the one in you, it would fall down as people in love tend to put their beloved ones on pedestals. Just remember, we talk about real love – action speaks louder than thousands words. Terms such as "marriage love" are being used for interest levels, which are often below the point of no return, as they stay together because of other reasons than the positive interest level – see later.

People tend to mistakenly suppose that it is possible to love and hate the very same person. This is not true. You can love her look and hate her attitude. Or, you can love her and be mad at her for something. This is possible. As I stressed, I consider clinically sane woman;-)

As we use the Black Box technique, we don’t know how it works inside. Nevertheless, we can postulate following characteristics for the interest level:

• She has to find you physically attractive to have high interest level. No physical attraction, no interest in positive numbers.


• The interest level can go up and down. Yet, once it gets below the point of no return, it will never get back into positive numbers. Therefore you can find your ex, which would deny new relationship with you.


• The interest level is being affect by your behavior for all the time you know each other. Therefore, the point of no return means no return from negative numbers to positive ones.


• It is possible to permanently lower maximum interest level you can achieve with her. A typical example is a revealed adultery.


• Interest level does not change with a constant velocity. Mainly, at 21 old girls, +/- 2 years, you can notice that it takes a little for a significant change. This gives four years, when you want enjoy the wild ride, second puberty, call it whatever you like – in the outcome, it drastically cuts your chances for keeping her interest level high. It is not unusual that a girl in this age seeks a relationship e.g. for one year only. Until she’s at least 23 [2], take it as a fun, not as something that would last centuries to come. If you manage to keep it cool, you have better chances to keep her.


• The interest level changes because of many actions of yours. She evaluates them sequentially. Therefore, it is possible to make several mistakes consequently and have her interest level still in positive numbers. That’s the reason, why some advices are considered as good, even as they lower her interest level in fact. It always rules that the more you lower the interest level, the worse for you.

Let T be the total time for which you know each other. Then we can consider the interest level in you, Personal Interest Level, as a function:
PIL is an instantaneous value of the pil function – the interest level in you in time t, which we measure since the time she knows you. I stress that we talk about a non-linear function.

As previously stated, it is a sequential automaton. Current value of pil function depends on history – the previous values. As an example from practice, while a girlfriend in love smiles even to corny jokes, ex does not do so. The PIL makes the difference.

Next important factor is feedback. You affect interest of other person the way, you behave towards the person. This way, a feedback is established and it indicates relationship’s stability. See Measuring Interest Level article on how to take advantage of it.

Miss Right

Let us start with a simplifying condition that we consider interest level of Miss Right in having a long-term relationship with you. If you want the best, you need Miss Right with a positive interest level in you. Thus, we can say
whereRIL, Relationship Interest Level, jis an instantaneous value of the ril function, which expresses her interest level in having a long-term relationship with you. It is an analogy to personal interest level. Just be aware that only the instantaneous values are approximately the same as the functions are not identical. When speaking about a long-term relationship with Miss Right, we can abbreviate to Interest Level – IL.

The abbreviation complies with [2] and [3]. In accordance with a terminology in use:

• Interest level that is in negative numbers is called negative interest, or low interest level,
• Interest level that is in positive numbers is called positive interest, or high interest level,
• Insufficient interest level says she can still choose another man despite high interest level in you – see Damping Factor later

In [2], the Interest Level is given in boundaries from 0% to 100% with the point of no return at 50% - you can transform between both measures with a linear functions.

Even with Miss Right, we can notice that she can stay in a relationship for some time, after her personal level dropped below zero. Accordingly to the Black Box technique, than to search for a clarification, we rather introduce an Inertial Force, if, that is a function of relationship interest level through all the time you know each other.
w_l (l as Personal Interest Level) and w_f (f as Inertial Force) present weights – how much her personal interest level in you means to her and how much the past relationship with you means to her. For Miss Right, the present is more important than the past.

When she evaluates two men for a relationship, they would never qualify as equal. For a public, she can make some statement to verbalize fairness, so she still would look like a being objective. But for us, there is an important fact – there are no such two men that would have the same RIL for the same woman at the same time..

Other than Right

Other types of women than Miss Right are less or more close to her. With that, the weight of personal interest level changes. For example, it is zero, when it’s about a mercenary. Women are different, some are after you, some are after your money, others dream about being Mrs. Doctor since their childhood, etc. She has some Personal Trait, pt_j, which are responsible for assigning particular weights, w_i, to her wishes. Their combination affects the final relationship interest level; even your look has some weight. Respective weight determines importance of a particular trait within the interest level. In their maximum and minimum values, the traits have to be in ratio of their weights. This way, their values cannot grow out of bounds to unrealistic values. Mathematically written, it looks like following:As you can see, it is possible to describe her personality with weights, which are used for decision making to achieve a particular goal. A particular set of weights in given ranges describes woman’s personality. Alias, as I shown in the “Dating Is a Game” article, you can view the entire process with numbers and compute the result. Just to get valid inputs with require precision and be able to not let emotions to take control:-) Of course, including costs and possibility to actually do the computation;-)

Competition

So far, we refined the equation of relationship interest level motion and we are just one step to finish it – we have to express the influence of your competition. To say, she has some interest levels in other men she meets, and some of these interest levels might actually be in positive numbers. For instance, you might want an engaged, loyal woman that would have higher interest in her partner, or you might want a mercenary, which would prefer the richest one.

The solution is to introduce a Damping Factor function, df, which is a function of all her interest levels in other men, when compared to you. Let df go from 0, no damping, to 1, full damping.And that’s the entire equation of relationship interest level motion, when it comes to you. The greater number, the more she wants it. The lesser number, the more she refuses it.

Related to the relationship interest level, let us state one more important characteristic: an unexpected breakup always raise the interest level [2].

Practice

In the "Dating Is a Game" article. I've shown that a model, the one that would cover every woman, would result into a too great number of variables. And as we can see from the equation of interest level motion, it is true. In practice, it is being shown that for a significant number of women, the personal interest level has the greatest weight. Therefore, the techniques, which were developed for Miss Right, would work on a significant number of other women as well – just the efficiency would be lower. Exactly:where w'_l is weight that ideal Miss Right gives to personal interest level and a wl goes for a women that we apply the techniques on. To measure your success, the RIL is the desired metric.

For example, with a mercenary the efficiency would be pretty low. So low that she will reject you – in fact, a safety mechanism came into an effect to protect you from bad women.

With any Miss Right, the efficiency would go over 50%, becauseIn accordance with an evaluation of model fitness as it is described in the “Dating Is a Game” article, the given inequality presents a key, why a deviance from the model expresses either a low interest level, or that she is not Miss Right. The efficiency affects the probability of your actions raising her interest level.

Although the weights are noted as constants, they are functions as well. They change dynamically because of the way she is being raised, the society she lives in, etc. They cannot be changed forcibly as a matter of few moments as e.g. sellers of love potions and sure-fire techniques claim.

Per say, she expects a date in a nice café house with obliging personnel and funny companion, whose physical appearance she likes and therefore has positive personal interest level in him. Despite the fact it is relatively easy to met 4 points out of 5, i.e. over 50%, it is clear that her positive personal level won't survive the date, if you'll bore her to the proverbial death. The trick is that you cannot confuse efficiency of strategy and ratio of met initial conditions for a given interval.

Almost in the end, I let my self to repeat once more: if you want the best one, you want Miss Right with high relationship interest level, RIL, in you and therefore you care about her personal level in the first place – PIL.

Other Relationship than the Long-Term One

Yeah, I know. I wrote that even a one night stand is a kind of relationship. So, how would the equation of interest level look like in such case? It would be the same – only another set of weight will be used. Just don’t forget that with some women and e.g. ONS, you’ll always get negative numbers. On the other hand, some women will have a sex with you even despite having their personal interest level in the negative numbers.

To have a long-term relationship with Miss Right,
she must have high interest level in you.

The described principle fits reality into such extent that you can use to express interest level of a man as well. Or you can use it to describe, why she chose red court shoes over blue gum boots. But that I leave upon an attentive reader.

Statistics will be given separately.

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Let us start with a short lesson from history to discover a motivation for the game. First of all, people saw that they might have a successful relationship. It does not matter, what kind of relationship it was – e.g. Miss Right and Gentleman, lovers and adultery, or marriage for money. It is important to realize that there was a publicly available statistics, so they could assess a success probability. Although, they would not use exactly these words to describe their choices:-)

For a long time, the statistics were the only source, until Theory of Games [31] came on the scene. It has been shown that it is possible to compute a strategy to achieve a particular goal. A strategy we can consider as optimal under given circumstances.

Later, John Nash proved an existence of equilibrium for n-person games [32]. Using the Nash equilibrium, we can describe a lasting relationship that both partners desire to keep. All we miss at this point is a set of game rules to achieve and keep the desired equilibrium.

While e.g. Nash and von Neumann were concerned mostly about the field of economy, their theories are applicable to dating as well. DocLove [2] is concerned about the dating and he introduced a set of rules, which lead us to the goal – a desired equilibrium in a form of a long-term relationship with Miss Right having high interest level.

For example, we can take The System [2] as a set of rules to increase her interest level. It confirms the possibility of applying Theory of Games to dating and relationships.

Using Theory of Games, the following text outlines modeling of changes of interest level and associated reasons.

Game

Let us consider the dating as a game - precisely, as a game for one man and one woman. Since I’m a man and therefore I talk from the man perspective, let us play the man. Our goal is to find a win strategy to gain and keep the woman. There are four distinct victory and defeat conditions:

Victory

• Primary: A lasting relationship
• Secondary: A proof that the woman is not the one we seek

Defeat

• Rejection without achieving the relationship
• Rejection while achieving the relationship

Obviously, the last three conditions end the game, while the first condition equals to an infinitely-long (non-terminating) game, thus allowing two more conditions.

Like that or not, but it is possible to compute the optimal strategy [31, 32]. So, let’s get a little bit formal here. With so-called normal game, we assume that both players play simultaneously and they don’t know actions of each other. If they have some knowledge about choices of the other player, we call it an extensive form. The extensive form can capture an imperfect information game – see later.

Example

Let us a make an example – each cell contains a duple of numbers – the resulting state of the man and the woman. Each number is either 0 (not satisfied), or 1 (satisfied). Assume two distinct woman personalities – Miss Right [3] aka The Good One [2] and a mercenary.

His Action/Her Personality	Miss Right	Mercenary
He spends a reasonable amount of money	1, 1 (a)	1, 0 (a)
He spends a lot of money	0, 0	1, 1 (b)

• 1, 1 (a) – He is satisfied that she’s not a mercenary. She’s satisfied as he does not try to buy her interest level. They continue to reach the primary victory condition – the relationship.


• 1, 1 (b) – As a mercenary, she is satisfied with his approach. Apparently, he loves to spend a lot of money with woman as well. Thus, they both head for a relationship too.


• 1, 0 (a) – She is not satisfied, because she is after his money at the first place. However, he is satisfied that he discovered a mercenary, before she could lighten up his bank account. He achieved the secondary victory condition by making a proof she is not the one, he seeks.


• 0, 0 – She’s got the feeling he tries to buy her interest level and she interprets such behavior as a lack of self-confidence. She did not like him. Thus, she rejects him. Therefore he looses as he achieved the defeat condition – getting rejected without the relationship.


• 1, 0 (b) – If man spends a lot of money, it is an omitted variant that indicates an error in result evaluation, as it would mean a man that is satisfied with a rejection by a woman he wants, or alienation.

The Lasting Relationship

If you date her for more than two months, we can start to talk about having a relationship. As there are commitments in the relationship, we talk about a cooperative game. As each player can have his/her own strategy, it is generally an asymmetric game. Because we don’t watch our girlfriends as a woman prison guard, we don’t know all actions she takes. That’s called an imperfect information game. So, these are our conditions, under which we try to achieve such state that it is seen as profitable for both players to continue with the relationship. This is the equilibrium [x5] that we seek.

Using the Model

Okay, you’ve got the basic idea about the game theory and its application, so now it’s the time to ask, how to use it. For the moment, let us assume that you’ve already got the model of woman’s behavior. This material and [2, 3] are in fact a representation of the model. They are a set of statements, which describe behavior of Miss Right. It is done in a form of reactions to various inputs. For instance, if you act with self-confidence, it raises her high interest level, if there’s one. Applying this information, you should know to always kiss her without asking on the end of your first date. When you don’t introduce yourself, but you rather wait until she asks on her own, you are evaluating her fitness to the model – if she is the one you want. Miss Right with high interest level will ask.

Easily said, you start with an optimistic assumption she’s the one you are looking for. Anticipating this fact, you tailor your actions towards her in such manner, which should result into growing of her interest level, if she fits the model. If she does not, then you will encounter either an infidelity with the model, or low interest level. This way you achieve one of victory conditions – you either get long-term relationship, or you know it is better to try another one.

Just to stress it, I don’t say to be rigid. Please, expose a flexible behavior – anyway Miss Right expects that of you. However, make sure you always follow the model. You won’t pay for your mistakes, if you won’t make them.

Common Mistakes

I have never used such model, I don’t believe this is possible, etc. is the cry of guys who don’t like the precisely defined steps showing their errors (BTW: they love to repeat). Like that or not, any behavior can be described with a model, which does not necessarily needs to be formed with math equations. As you behave somehow, you behave accordingly to some model. It is a fact that is not violated by an inability to describe, understand or design the model, or by the model’s fidelity.

Model’s fidelity with reality is a big issue. If the model is either based on a set of assumptions, which do not hold when confronted with reality, it is an apparent mistake. Typical examples are wishful thinking and incomplete information:

• I asked her out twice, she refused twice without a concrete counteroffer. I’ll give it one more shot.
  If she would have high interest level, she would respond with a concrete counteroffer.


• I’ll bring her flowers on the first date to please her and present myself as a gentleman.
  There are three types of woman: require flowers on the first date, hate flowers on the first date and does not require flowers on the first date. Part of the success is to know whom you want.

Another mistake is a belief that you can switch models swiftly enough to score with any type of woman without loosing a point. Considering the flower example, it proves an existence of a situation, when you loose points – assuming require flowers, meeting hate flowers. However, it is possible to minimize, not eliminate, the probability of getting into such situation and it is possible to develop techniques to reduce your losses in such situation.

Or, some people set unrealizable goals. For instance, they make assumption that they can have any woman. This is not true – as example, you cannot have Miss Right that has high interest level in somebody else, because she is loyal.

I have no doubts that there will be some macher with a persuading war story as he got her laid. Bullshit. In that very moment he got her laid, he proved that she’s either not loyal, i.e. she isn’t miss Right, or that she lacks high interest level in her so-called boyfriend. Aka, it really is impossible. C’est la vie.

Fourth mistake is not a problem with the model, but it is a feedback problem. Every model operates with some tolerance, but you have to feed it with valid data. If you fail to correctly evaluate the situation, you loose with any model. However, some are not aware of it sometimes.

Modeling Miss Right

Miss Right presents a particular type of woman that is well-defined with her attitude characteristics. Additionally, her behavior towards a particular man is determined by her interest level in possibly several men. She presents a subset of all women. Thus, we can construct a relatively simple model and design a relatively small set of rules. While they are still effective, they fit the reality on given range and lead us to the realizable goal. Therefore, a violation of the model indicates that we either do not deal with Miss Right, and/or that she has low interest level.* In such case, we could achieve the secondary victory condition and we are free to proceed with another woman to try to achieve primary victory condition.

*Yes, formally, it can indicate an error in the model too. However, field results continuously prove the model to fit the reality over past years.

Not only Miss Right exposes an adaptive behavior as she takes past values of her interest level into account for her decision making.

Creating a huge, complex model that would cover every woman implies an enormous phase space. Moreover, we would have to introduce delays to deal e.g. with loyal woman and we still could not guarantee a success exactly with her. We have to use state space instead of phase space, because in continuous space, the loyal woman presents too many variables we cannot estimate effectively enough – e.g. if, when and why she will break up with her current partner. However, in the discrete state space we can substitute these variables with a sort of algorithm to describe transitions between states, which of course have to be well-defined.

A simplification with more reasonable requirements means to classify women into several classes. A problem arises when it comes to setting the granularity level to identify particular classes. Should they be mutually exclusive, or should they overlap? Miss Right model eliminates this problem by using the black & white classification. She either is Miss Right, or she is not.

To correctly identify Miss Right, regardless of her interest level in a particular man, it is necessary to describe some aspects of behavior of other women as well. It is a side effect of the black & white classification, which comes handy and you can use it to design your own strategy, if you’d like to have a different type of woman.

One has to bear in mind that when it comes to women, in which we have high interest level, decisions are being made in a stress for many guys. An excessive complexity harms their efforts to adhere to the model. On contrary, a relatively simple model does not have such disadvantage. But it may be seen as too inflexible because of emotions, fear of rejection, etc. Fortunately, it is possible to practice discipline to rule these effects out of the decision making.

An effective strategy is a key to your success.

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